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Can you have a mentor without them knowing?
Finding a mentor or someone to be your coach can be the most challenging thing about being mentored. Finding the right team, or the right coach, has to be both intentional and organic. Someone can be your mentor or “coach” without them actually knowing it!
How do I find a mentor outside my work?
1. Finding the Right Mentor
- Know your goals (both short and long term).
- Who do you look up to?
- Do the research.
- Be cognizant of your existing network.
- Recognize the difference between a mentor and a sponsor.
- Have an elevator pitch ready.
- Make sure it’s the right fit before asking.
How do I find a mentor in life?
10 Tips for Finding a Mentor—and Making the Relationship Count
- Understand What a Mentor Is—and Isn’t.
- Be Clear About Your Goals.
- Find the Right People to Mentor You.
- Make Sure to Look for Different Perspectives.
- Reach Out and Establish a Relationship.
- Be Specific About What You Want.
- Make It Easy for Your Mentor.
What should you not ask your mentor?
Don’t ask for handouts. This includes referrals, resources or introductions. The mentor has invested their time and energy in you already….What to Ask and What Not to Ask Your Mentor
- How do you spend your time?
- How can I help you?
- What would you do if you were me?
- What were your biggest failures?
- What am I doing wrong?
How do you professionally mentor someone?
Here are seven ideas to help you as you begin working with them and becoming a good mentor.
- #1: Ask Questions. One of the core actions a mentor can take is to ask their mentee questions.
- #2: Share Ideas.
- #3: Tell Stories.
- #4: Dig Deeper.
- #5: Listen With Compassion.
- #6: Offer Encouragement.
- #7: Make Introductions.
How do I approach a mentor?
How to ask someone to mentor you
- Schedule an initial conversation.
- Clearly describe the guidance you’re seeking (The Ask).
- Confirm your willingness to do the necessary work and follow-through.
- Acknowledge and respect the individual’s time.
- Note: If you don’t hear from them, follow-up, but don’t hound him or her.
What to talk about during mentoring?
Common topics mentees seek to work on with their mentors often include communication skills, leadership skills, networking, work/life balance, learning organizational culture and management skills.
What should you do if someone asks you to be a mentor?
A mentee should aim to gain access to the work being done and learn by observing or helping. Don’t ask. Be clear about your intentions and bring value to the relationship, and step into that role now. Don’t ask. Just start by serving, connecting and you might just wake up with a mentor.
Can a parent be a mentor or friend?
As a parent, a friend, an opinionated a-hole, surely you’ve freely offered your advice in an attempt to help the another individual. Maybe it was helpful, maybe not. But, what’s for certain is that the standards for this type of informal mentoring are low.
Do you know what your mentee is looking for?
Know what your mentee is looking for. If you’re a Drill Sergeant in the Army and the mentee is only looking for encouragement, might not be a good match…or you may need some sensitivity training. Discuss this with the mentee, perhaps you’ll find that you won’t be able to help after all.
Can a mentor be a one way pipeline?
If you think that a mentor is going to be a one-way pipeline to secret wisdom about your chosen field, think again. A strong bond with a mentor is not transactional, it’s relational. That’s why it is meaningful, and has a better chance to last over time, as the mentee becomes a mentor and you are peers helping one another.